It just makes no sense for her to take all that trouble (at least 1-2 hours) dressing up, just to sit around and tell all men to go away. Contrary to what her outward behavior may suggest, she IS looking for a mate; but she, aware of her extreme beauty, knows that she is capable of getting the very best , the tribal leader. She therefore develops automatic behaviors over time, to weed out the constant barrage of low status males who, fuelled by alcohol, pluck up their courage and ask her, “What’s your name?” , “Come here often?” While an average or pretty girl might be initially responsive to your opener, and if you come indirect they will not suspect you are trying to ‘get’ anything, because they simply haven’t been approached that many times. A woman of extreme beauty, however, has probably been approached hundreds if not thousands of times in her life, and whatever you say, EVEN if it is completely indirect, will be seen as a sign of interest and taking value. Basically, unless you can quickly do something to change that perception, your approach alone will convey too much initial interest and thus lump you with the hordes of low status males who approach her day after day.

A tribal leader would typically not care if he got her or not, since he is already surrounded by beautiful women. Another one would be nice, but he doesn’t really need it. But if you’re a beginner, and you don’t have any women, you can ‘pretend’ that you do, and that is good enough. There are two main techniques/strategies to overcome this:

1. Approach the group with girl(s) on your arm

Engage a group of average to pretty girls, and ‘use’ these to convey both tribal leader characteristics (already has women) as well as disinterest (you already have women, so don’t need her – you’re just being sociable).

2. Insult her or Disqualify yourself immediately

Usually a very beautiful woman’s response is automatic, fine tuned over years of boredom at low status males and their low status ways. You only have a couple of seconds to show that you are different – you don’t seek rapport with her, or her approval. In fact, you don’t care what she thinks, so much so that you casually state, “I don’t think it’s gonna work out between us,” or “I like your tan, it’s amazing what a can of spray can do these days.” Be prepared for a bitchy response back – you must pass this test by not reacting to it and keeping your own frame/not backing down by retracting or apologising for what you said. From then on you can run your opener. Be prepared throughout to continue showing disinterest when it seems like you are losing her.

Alternatively, for a beginner, it might be best to get practise at more friendly girls (there are many very pretty girls who are not extremely beautiful) before moving on to the more challenging tests and potholes a woman of extreme beauty will throw at you.

Love,
James

First: men. It’s very simple. When a man sees a hot woman – pretty face, wide hips, large breasts, youthful skin and hair – he feels instant attraction and wants to have sex with her. The attraction is a direct link to desire for sex with this man. Second, as long as the woman has those physical qualities (genetic health or replication value), he will still want to have sex with her, regardless of how long he has been talking to her for, regardless of whether they have a connection, etc.

When a woman perceives a man to have higher social value than her, she will feel attraction for him. However, unlike men, a woman’s attraction does not lead to her being willing to have sex with the guy. When a woman (consciously or subconsciously) touches a man to show her interest, the man thinks, “Shit! I am so IN! I’ll just get her number, organise a date and I can have sex with her!” After all, when HE feels attraction for a member of the opposite sex, he wants to have sex with her, end of story. Just like the scores of completely misguided men who think women are attracted to looks just because that is all to which they, as men, are accustomed, so many men interpret a woman’s interest (her outward signs of her inner attraction) as a ticket to bed.

However, it does not work like this. You can save yourself years of pain and confusion if you just accept this simple fact: Attraction in a woman is NOT ENOUGH. It is, like most women, FICKLE and TRANSIENT. Sure, you may have gained attraction, but if you don’t realise the HUGE difference between your (male) attraction mechanism, and the female ‘equivalent’, you will consistently be frustrated by the hordes of flakes you get. So time for the truth, listen carefully guys.

For a woman to have sex with you, she needs ATTRACTION + INVESTMENT + CONNECTION. Yes, she needs to be attracted, but attraction alone is like a gas, it diffuses very quickly. In the heat of the moment, when a woman’s emotions are high, she may well be fully intent on texting you tomorrow, but the next day, when memories and (for a woman) emotions fade, she will wonder, “Who is that guy? He was attractive, but we barely know eachother. What does he want from me?” For us guys, none of that matters as long as she’s hot, right?

Instead of generating attraction and letting your ego swell at the fact that she is tossing her hair at you, touching you or whatever, you need to find your rational mind at that moment, in order to remember, the ONLY reason you generate attraction in the first place is to get her INVESTED in you. And the only reason you want her to invest in you is so that you can CONNECT with her. And the only reason you want to connect with her is so that you can have SEX with her.

Why is it this complicated? Well, think back to tribal times (this is explained in detail in New Tribal Dynamics). A man can just go and have sex with whoever he wishes, with very little risk to himself. A man’s greatest risk is in the approach, while a woman’s risk lies in sex. In the hostile wilderness, a woman can’t just let herself get pregnant without some kind of reassurance that the man who impregnated her is going to stick around, protect and provide for her. So, evolution via natural selection developed a woman’s emotional mechanism not only to select for social value (attraction) but also to require investment and connection with the man to allow herself to be seduced.

You can read about what exactly generates attraction, investment and connection in New Tribal Dynamics, and precisely how to do it yourself.

Love,
James

1. In the daytime, women often genuinely do have things to do, places to go (e.g. work). Often you will get ‘blowouts’ where the woman really DOES have to go. You can’t take it personally. Even if she does stop, interactions will be considerably shorter than in the night time so you will get less time to run game unless you can manage to get an instant date (highly recommended).
2. Women often aren’t in the ’social mood’ during the day. Often they walk around in a daze; don’t expect a girl to be completely comfortable / not surprised at your approach – she will be! However, that can be a very good thing if you manage to keep the vibe going well, and can often gain you instant alpha status.
3. Given the same amount of time talking, a number taken during the daytime will be far less likely to flake than during the night. This is because you have separated yourself from the crowd of loveable losers who need alcohol to give them the courage to approach at a bar; she will remember you well. In the night, women are in a high emotional state, and they tend to do things and say things they usually wouldn’t do when they are out shopping during the day (calm). When women are in this emotional state, things that happened during this time tend to ‘blur’ when they ‘come down’ the next morning. She may have said she will call you tomorrow but unless you spent at LEAST 30 minutes with her getting her to invest in you and connect with you, she will most likely flake.
4. During the day, instant dates lead to solid numbers. During the night, a ‘move’ to a quiet area of the bar, or to another venue altogether builds investment and connection.
5. The energy levels during the day are far, far lower than during the night. You have to calibrate your approach to that. It is good to get practise at both day and night – because when you do too much of one, your energy level is either too high or too low, depending on which one you do most (day or night).
6. During the night, in their high emotional state, it is far easier to makeout with a girl, but don’t expect to see her the next day. Avoid instant makeouts and grinding on the dancefloor – it is all a trap!
7. It is much easier to isolate and move during the night than during the day.
8. Loud music during the night can make it hard if not impossible to run game. Try to find quiet, more mellow venues during the night. During the day, sound levels will almost never be a problem.
9. There is more ‘competition’ during the night, whereas during the day you will have a ‘free reign’ over the women, since no man dares approach during the day, due to a mixture of social conditioning and alcohol.
10. Finally, the obvious: alcohol during the night. This has many implications, one of which, as above, is increased ‘competition’ from drunk guys. Higher energy levels, lower attention span, high emotional state, ‘girliness’ e.g. running off to the dancefloor in the middle of talking to you (the most annoying thing I can probably think of!) are all hindrances to you picking these girls up. Even if you meet them standing, you’ve got to get them SAT DOWN and as calm as possible, with undivided attention on you. This can be hard when a girl is out with her girlfriends: She has an unconscious replication agenda, but she also goes where the fun and emotional stimulation lies. If you are trying to build a connection with a girl but a song she loves comes on, she will, despite her attraction for you, most likely leave you to join her friends. This is where investment and connection, aside from reducing flakes, come in. For us males, attraction is enough for us to want her to stay with us (for sex), but for girls, attraction is just another emotion. If there are other fun emotions competing at the time (including the high of alcohol), music, her friends, and you don’t already have a connection, you’re fighting an uphill battle. You’ve GOT to get investment and connection in order for her to want to stay with you despite other temptations, AND so that she remembers you the next day. Also watch out for alcohol fuelled interest – a woman will often touch you either to see if you respond like a horny puppy dog, or simply because she is drunk. Don’t return interest too easily. Finally, DO NOT drink yourself: aside from slowing your reactions, you will learn very little if your game is fuelled by alcohol.

Love,
James

Many of the guys who have bought my ebook come from troubled pasts, low self esteem and prolonged loneliness. You can’t just give a guy a book like that and expect him to change instantly. The brain doesn’t work like that: Like any muscle, it operates based on a use it or lose it principle, picking up internal reference points based on raw, uncut EXPERIENCE.

That’s right guys – forget the buddhist ideals that one must be ‘happy to simply be, without external entities contributing to your inner state of peace’. I am telling you now that such thought is, in our universe with our atomic properties, RETARDED. You are in fact designed to feel sad and lonely when you don’t have any women, instead of fighting that feeling you have to GET UP and TAKE ACTION. In psychology, it is well known that any improvement in feeling must be preceded by action first. In short, FEELINGS FOLLOW ACTIONS, never the other way around. If you sit there and wait to feel better, you will just feel worse. The only solution is to put yourself in the firing line, in order to pick up reference points, which are little mental notes based on true experience, that your brain uses to adapt to the environment. THAT is what gives you competence with women, in the end, when you have so many reference points that you know precisely what to do at the right time.

For example, you go out, you talk to a group of two girls. The one is interested, the other is ugly and bitter that you like her friend. The ugly girl precedes to ‘cockblock’ you, and drags your otherwise interested target away. Reference point here is: ugly girls cockblock, find a way to stop this happening. Then the next time you go out, you try out ways to get around this reference point; you might actually befriend the ugly girl so that she doesn’t mind if you hit on her friend, as you are now her friend too.

The road to picking up reference points is hard and tedious. It requires many nights of mistakes, mishaps and unpleasant moments, harsh blowouts and all the stuff that makes you feel like quitting. Such negativity, is overwhelmingly positive in the long run, if you LEARN from these reference points. If you handle rejection with your bitter ego instead of thinking PAST your emotions, and deciphering rationally WHY it didn’t work out with X or Y girl, and what you could do in the future to fix your errors.

But reference points can also be positive experiences: a girl riding on your dick, is a reference point. In fact, it’s 3 reference points: Girls like sex. Girls like me. All the hard work is worth it.

Because thoughts arise from neural pathways, each time you take on a new reference point, experiencing something new and alien to you previously, you are literally causing the synthesis of physical brain tissue, effectively creating a new brain. Once you’ve approached thousands of women and gained great success, you will see the world through new eyes. You will look at the bar, feeling like a different person from the guy who first walked in all those years ago, trembling in fear. This is because you literally do have a NEW BRAIN.

Creation of new neural pathways takes time. Much like building muscle takes time. However much one would wish to be able to build a 50 inch chest in a day, this cannot happen, given the rules of our universe. The process involves hard work, it is tedious and involves many setbacks (injuries, poor workouts) along the way, but as long as the bodybuilder sticks with it, he will meet his goals eventually, over a long period. The only way he loses his muscle is if he stops exercising altogether. All the above is true for the brain: Given the energy it takes for the brain to function, it is only efficient to make use of neural pathways which are in use, while the others are gradually discarded.

Using this analogy, we can now see what the transition from completely celibate loser, to happy ladies man, is going to be like, IN REALITY. It will consist of hard work, persistence, gradually expanding comfort zones (viz gradual increases in weight for bodybuilders), setbacks and many, many lows. It will consist of many useful reference points, but no results, until, one day, hopefully soon, you get a positive reference point as a result of your learning from all the past negatives. You might get a girl attracted to you; she is leaning in to you, touching you, and reinitiating the conversation when there is silence. Even if you haven’t built a connection, you get her number and she flakes. Reference points: GIRLS ARE ATTRACTED TO ME (key!!) . Girls tend to flake if you have not justified your interest in her, or spent enough time and effort to build a connection with her and get her invested in you. And SO on. This gradual, step by step accumulation of reference points WILL, if you pick up and learn from reference points, end with the girl on dick reference point. And that is how your reality REALLY gets changed.

Love,
James

Some days, I would get very angry, angry that I didn’t have these girls with the beautiful bouncing curves, tight jeans and rose petal scent. Sometimes their existence was almost painful, not unlike dangling a massive carrot in front of a horse then shoving it up your ass. I would go out in the day, girls wouldn’t stop, or if they did, we had a five minute interaction which lead nowhere (mostly my fault for freezing up like a deer in the headlights). When I went out at night, I got a couple numbers, but they all flaked.

If only I could get just one girl, I could make her my girlfriend, we’d have regular sex and I would feel awesome, I would feel healthy. I would be able to get on with my life, my goals and passions. Of course I would always go out to try and find more girls, but just getting the first seemed so damn hard.

Other days, I would still feel angry, when I saw the scores of beautiful girls strut past, hips wiggling from side to side in that entrancing rhythm… But I also felt that, despite my lack of results, despite the stunning brunette in tight jeans and boots seeming so, SO far outside of my reach, my desire for her, for her, and her, and dozens more in any one given day, at least let me know that I was on the RIGHT PATH. Even if I failed after doing my VERY BEST, I will have gone after what I wanted and not stopped until I got it.

And that’s exactly what I did. With persistence, ANYONE can arrive at a level of considerable success with women as a simple matter of course. Women desire men just as we desire them. Nature is on our side, you just have to play the courtship right. Let New Tribal Dynamics handle that. All you need to do is PERSIST – stay on your path, keep learning from mistakes, and the results will come, EVEN if you can’t see it right now. Stick in there: WOMAN IS WORTH IT.

Love,
James

It didn’t take long until, when my last wing bailed on me, I snapped. Me, a new man, striving to attract and seduce women the world over, staying in on a Friday night? What a joke. I put on the same clothes I wore on the disastrous Wednesday (turbo blowouts anyone), and walked out into the darkness.

Aside from the field itself, one of the main problems before you even get there, is the journey. Whether you are walking or driving, the cold darkness of the city streets can engulf any positive spirit you have left and you just can’t seem to see the light. Everything, mind and body, is telling you to turn back. Turn back, shrink to comfort, it is dangerous out there, if you approach women, X Y Z will happen. Stay in and watch TV like a safe little chode. Even though you know you HAVE to do this in order to get girls, to attract and seduce women and be happy, your immediate emotions are now sabotaging you, for while we are motivated by our emotions to align with others, we are at the same time motivated to protect ourselves from others. It’s a perpetual, emotional tug-of-war.

And here lies the paradox: the cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.

Do you hear me? You MUST enter that cave. Put yourself in the line of fire. Go out to the place you fear to go, alone, and talk to a girl. Even if she rejects you, you will with each interaction, slowly internalize that nothing bad happens from talking to a girl in this modern world. Your brain operates a ‘better safe than sorry’ strategy after millennia of evolution where in the ancestral environment it WAS better to err on the side of caution, but it is no more. Where there is risk, there is far greater reward.

Each time you face your fear, it will shrink a tiny bit, so little that you think you could have done more, and beat yourself up because you ejected after one or two lines. Don’t fall into the trap of being a ’serial opener’, but don’t beat yourself up for starting small if you’re a beginner, either. How many guys can go from being hopeless with women, painfully shy and/or depressed, to just going out and facing fear , without friends, without alcohol? You would be surprised by how few can summon the courage to do what they in fact need to do to fix their lives, so give yourself credit where it is due, and realise that, particularly in the case of going out alone, it is very demanding and you need to take regular, gradual steps along the natural line of interaction from meet to sex as described in New Tribal Dynamics. If you set your expectations too high, you run the risk of overload and you won’t get anything done. So focus on progressive desensitization, facing your fears, working against the grain of your emotions in a slow, calculated, disciplined, step by step manner.

Love,
James

Now, since our ’survival machines’ are outdated in this modern world, could it be possible that the modern world itself can ‘cancel out’ our now invalid (yet, alas, nonetheless potent) tribally evolved feelings?

Of course, I am talking about modern medicine. Many pickup artists (PUAs) would frown upon such a low brow solution, citing the need to just ‘go in anyway’, and in most cases this is the best route. Resorting to potent medications with sometimes severe side effects when Approach Anxiety could be tamed (not removed) by willpower alone seems pretty stupid. However, there are some men out there who are genetically predisposed to low status, or who have experienced certain life trauma which traps and entombs a man to meek, shy and inactive (low status) ways. In either case, whether environmentally or biologically triggered, one man’s Approach Anxiety can be far, far worse than what another might experience. There is an entire spectrum of Approach Anxiety Intensity (AAI) which should be taken into account the next time an already outgoing PUA chides a beginner and tells him to ’suck it up’. At the same time, this article is by no means a call for a ‘quick escape’ for men who simply don’t want to face their fears (we all must). Nor is it intended as medical advice; we are simply going to explore the possible effects of various drugs on Approach Anxiety.

1. Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs and SNRIs)

Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs) such as fluoxetine, sertraline and escitalopram, or Serotonin-Norepinephrine Reuptake Inhibitors (SNRIs) such as venlafaxine and duloxetine are indicated for the treatment of depression, social anxiety, panic disorder and general anxiety disorder, amongst others. The effects of serotonin reuptake inhibition were explored heavily in Peter Kramer’s bestseller Listening to Prozac, most notable being, transforming shy, inhibited people into ’social butterflies’. The tendency for these medicines to increase extroversion is very promising for the mediation of crippling Approach Anxiety, such that we might class a certain man’s AA as being over a clinical threshold (if AAI could somehow be measured – perhaps by physiological response and/or brain activity) and treat those sufferers with SSRIs as a first line. But the exact reason for these effects is what makes serotonin reuptake inhibition interesting, particularly with a view of our ancestral past. In Peter Kramer’s book, clinical experiments were done on rhesus monkeys, which measured each monkey’s blood serotonin levels and observed his respective position within the tribe. The results were remarkable: The dominant monkey (tribal leader) had by far the highest blood serotonin levels, and when he was removed and another monkey took his place as the tribal leader, that monkey showed a significant increase in serotonin levels. It is pretty conclusive evidence that serotonin levels are associated with assertiveness, confidence, dominance and composure – all necessary components of a man well equipped to battle Approach Anxiety. For if we think back to why AA exists in the first place, it is for fear of death at the hands of the tribal leader; but, if one is the leader himself, he will surely feel less anxiety (although the switch does, crazily enough, still exist inside his body so we cannot say he won’t experience anything when he tries to approach a woman).

The physiological effects of serotonin reuptake inhibition consist of a ‘thymoanaesthetic’ effect, where that sharp, poignant sinking feeling in one’s chest is suppressed – the main reason for decreased rejection sensitivity amongst those with higher serotonin. Also, a ‘thymoenhancing’ effect which ‘fills’ the emptiness and weakness in one’s chest, with a fuller, energetic strength. This is the same energy which gives depressed people the energy to get up and go about their daily lives, whereas they might otherwise be too physically drained and exhausted to go on. Both of these key effects emanating from the chest may decrease Approach Anxiety amongst those sensitive to rejection and/or physically exhausted, particularly if we note that one of the reasons for AA in the first place, is the very real fear of rejection at the hands of females in the tribe, since the entire tribe (all the other women) will find out about this and it is likely that none of them will even consider mating with him as a result.

2. Atypical Antipsychotics

The newer, ‘atypical’ antipsychotics, such as olanzapine and quetiapine (which famous pickup artist Mystery was prescribed in ‘The Game’) are not as useful as SSRI/SNRIs for Approach Anxiety, yet certain men may still benefit greatly from them, and even ‘need’ them in order to do perform in the field. These antipsychotics, aside from treatment of schizophrenia, are also indicated for treatment of manic episodes associated with bipolar disorder (mood stabiliser). While men who are bipolar should be on some sort of mood stabiliser anyway, there is an entire spectrum of people who may at certain intense stimuli, exhibit hypomanic qualities. For example, highly frustrated, volatile men may have extremely pronounced reactions on seeing a beautiful woman. These emotions may be: intense anger (that she is not with him), and intense desire, which is often counterproductive in that there is far too much outcome dependency placed on his interaction with her (if he does manage to approach). This will cause nervousness, lack of composure, racing thoughts, and often the ‘deer in the headlights’ will ensue.

The physiological effects of atypical antipsychotics are to further suppress any fleeting movements in the chest, which SSRIs do not. Atypical antipsychotics, aside from action on dopamine, act on many serotonin (5HT) receptors in the brain, too. The chest becomes very peaceful, feeling neither pleasure nor pain. The disadvantage of this is, of course, lack of desire, and hence Approach Laziness, and this is where the person doing the approaching has to consciously tell himself that he desires more than anything to do this, despite the indifference caused by this medication. Psychological effects of atypical antipsychotics relevant to Approach Anxiety are a ’slowing down’ of thoughts, lack of desire (accompanied by the removal of the jealousy/envy/desire ‘pang’ in the chest), indifference, even mild sadness, much like a heavily tranquilised wild animal. There are advantages and disadvantages to this, but overall, atypical antipsychotics as mood stabilisers work very much in favor of diminishing, or at least greatly blunting, Approach Anxiety.

3. Benzodiazepines

What anxiety article would be complete without the infamous benzodiazepines? Although not recommended for long term use due to tolerance and high addictive potential, benzodiazepines such as diazepam, alprazolam and lorazepam are useful for short term mediation of mainly physical manifestations of Approach Anxiety: shaking, trembling, butterflies – all of these can be suppressed by the soothing, calming effect of a benzodiazepine. Thoughts, too, slow down and enable a man to approach and speak without noticeable physical discomfort -  the illusion of composure created by medicine will lead to success, which in turn will lead to unmedicated composure. Indeed, this article is intended primarily for the beginner with crippling AA, not the already successful PUA.

Love,
James

Great. But how much do you REALLY want it?

Because, I warn you, there is going to be pain. Cold loneliness, startling blowouts, devalidation, depressing nights trooping home without anything but those lows playing through your head. There will be highs, sure, with enough persistence there will be many of them, and in the end, in the ‘land of milk and honey’, the vast, vast majority of your experiences will be overwhelmingly positive…

But when you start out, it’s not that way. Despite what all the books say, which in theory looks very nice and straightforward, REAL social interactions always have imperfections and an element of unpredictability. A 9 who thinks she is a 6, a 5 who thinks she is an 8, loud music, chattering of hundreds of people, the smell of alcohol, screams, shouts, interrupts, even police and ambulance sirens: it’s damn HARD.

When I wrote New Tribal Dynamics, I didn’t want to fool you into thinking this WASN’T hard. Even in the sales pitch, I warned you. I would rather have you ACCEPT this blatant fact, than have you go to a bar and get overwhelmed by the rough, crude reality of talking to girls in bars and nightclubs. And during the daytime, even, you have to deal with the reality that a lot of girls have somewhere to be, and a lot of your girls just aren’t going to hook, or the social pressure of it not being ‘normal’ to attempt to attract and seduce women during the day. Whatever school of thought you follow, these factors will always remain, like a universal constant.

Prepare for failure, but expect success. This is why I now want to move away from the negative aspects in this article, and on to the rewards. A few days into my training, I saw a blonde girl at the bar, in a beautiful flowing red dress. She was there with her boyfriend, but I felt compelled to talk to her. I tapped her on her shoulder, she turned around smiling. Her face was heavily made up, bright red lips and sparkling blue eyes. She didn’t understand the fumbling crap that came out of my mouth, so we stood there in an awkward moment, and that was when it hit me.

I CAN GET THIS GIRL. These are the rewards.

Men, these are the rewards. Oh, the rewards! So worth every single shot of pain! Girls who look like swedish little red riding hoods, the asians who stumble around town silently looking for book stores, the huge chested girl at the busstop wearing a thong clearly visible through business trousers. Japanese air hostesses. All the girls you DREAMED of having ride you in high school. That’s just the beginning. Only the beginning!

Gentlemen, NEVER GIVE UP.

Love,
James

I failed hard, I failed miserably. Attraction? Forget it! Just going up to the girl, saying anything, was enough to have me shaking like a leaf. I went through about 50 approaches, scared like a deer in the headlights, shaking, voice cracking. Then I started to get numbers, but they all flaked on me. I couldn’t understand why I went wrong, I was in despair and quitting was so tempting, just to put an end to this pain. I went out into the night on my own, feeling that cold loneliness, that emptiness inside my chest. Despite my best efforts at the time, my mind became engulfed by darkness, and there was nothing I could do to stop it. To even the most positive of guys, approaching women can be one of the most daunting and paralyzing prospects before you, when you don’t yet have the warmth and companionship of a single girl.

I felt like an absolute loser, going out alone in my best clothes, trying to just have one girl like me. I felt so empty and cold inside, when I had no one. If I could just get one, this whole process would be so much easier. Why? Simple:

Companionship, love, sex and intimacy gives warmth and light like nothing else.

When you go out into the night and you don’t have a girl to hold, to come home to, to stroke your hair, to kiss, to have sex with, your ’survival machine’ is giving you these negative emotions – loneliness, emptiness, darkness – in order for you to strive for the light at the end of the tunnel. When you do get companionship, love, sex and intimacy, your ’survival machine’ is rewarded with correspondingly positive emotions. It is no coincidence that the very emotions (loneliness, darkness) which motivates us to seek the warmest emotions (love, intimacy), are both the most painful and pleasurable emotions our ’survival machine’ can possibly feel. When we have no love, loneliness (a form of pain) kicks in and we seek companionship and love (pleasure). This makes complete sense, yet there is, at the same time, a grave disadvantage of this seemingly helpful negative emotion: Girls can sense it, and this is detrimental to our social interactions with women unless we can hide our unhappiness. You may be asking yourself, if our ’surival machines’ have been ‘perfected’ over millennia of evolution, how come they don’t work in our best interests and feed us with positivity when we meet women? Since our ’survival machines’ have evolved only to give us the highest statistical chance of survival, as possible, our emotions serve only as a guidance system, not the universal truth. In other words, your emotions are not perfect, far from it. Think about it: If we felt pleasure when we have no women, we would not be motivated to change anything in our lives, thus the pain makes sense even though it can often work against you.

Herein lies the greatest paradox any lonely, forlorn man must overcome, in order to attract and seduce women. Women are attracted to men who already have women. If you don’t have at least one woman, unless you get lucky via your social circle, you will find it very hard to do cold approach, for a certain amount of ‘performance’ is required: Nature wants to weed you out and the odds of your getting a mate are slimmer by the day. That’s why, if you do manage to hook up with one girl, build comfort with her and make it into a relationship (i.e. regular sex and intimacy). Keep going out to pick up other women. If you have moral qualms about this, I would refer you to The Selfish Gene, by Richard Dawkins. The smile on your face, the cocky, jovial, positive attitude, a certain ‘warmth’ in your behavior, and the consequent strength of frame when a woman throws her congruence tests at you to see whether you really do have women – all these ‘tips’ are so easy to read and understand, yet painstakingly difficult to apply in field, where it is real, emotional and cutthroat. You would be surprised to find out the efficiency and accuracy with which a woman’s ’survival machine’ has evolved to filter out the losers from the winners.

So, how do we overcome this paradox? Unfortunately, there is no magic pill or quick fix for this paradox which has condemned masses of lonely men into lifetimes of involuntary celibacy. However, if you first and foremost stay on your path despite the lonely nights, rejection, devalidation, worry and inner hopelessness, you are almost certain to succeed eventually. The supply of women in our modern world is, in practical terms, infinite, so there is no need to worry about running out of girls if you get rejected by a few. Learn from your mistakes every time you go out, and pick up positive reference points to guide you for future nights. Progress is slow, sometimes not even apparent, but if you keep approaching, talking to women, pushing yourself as far as you can go, accepting this so excruciating pain and darkness as part of your personal growth, you are going to improve until one day, everything goes right. It is all in raw persistence, going on despite bad feelings, despite lack of success. If this is what you truly want, realise that this is all or nothing: You are either going to die alone or you are going to live in abundance of beautiful women. The choice is yours, and it begins with stepping out of the house.

Love,
James

It is not only difficult but almost impossible for the average Joe or Billy down the lane to understand the workings of the female mind. If only a normal man could unravel the complex labyrinth of a woman’s emotions and desires, he would have the key to winning her heart and therefore, her body, oh, her glorious body.

For you might deny it as loudly as you want, but the truth is that possessing a woman’s body in the throes of sexual bliss is the ultimate goal and desire of every man. There is something about a woman’s body that sets a man’s heartbeat racing and he yearns to take it passionately.

Fortunately, I’ve decided to make things easier for all those long-suffering men that have been puppets in the hands of bewitching women. Here’s then my brief attempt at understanding women with the hope that it’ll make a difference while dealing with your woman problems-

While men are visual when it comes to choosing a mate, women are behavioral. In other words, a man is instantly attracted to a woman that is beautiful, has a shapely body and is youthful.

A woman, on the other hand, has a sharply developed intuition which enables her to judge a man according to his behavior and conclude precisely whether he is high status or low status. A HIGH STATUS man instantly wins her affections because of the security and resources he can provide to any children conceived if she has sex with him.

This means that a woman essentially wants a high status male of RESOURCES as in genetic, material and survival abilities. She does not select her mate on the basis of his face or his body or even the length of his penis (all those guys obsessed with length can rest easy). She is more concerned with what he can provide in terms of-

• Genetic resources- These include features which convey his genetic health such as a healthy body, facial attractiveness and physical strength.
• Material resources- Quite obviously include money, status and a comfortable lifestyle.
• Survival abilities- Emotional strength, resourcefulness, dependability, protection, intelligence, creativity etc.

To nail a woman that has been tantalizingly out of your reach, all you have to do is convince her that you’re high status and she’s yours for the taking. A well-groomed and well-dressed man ignites a woman’s senses because on the face of it, he appears high status.

A woman wants a man that to her is seemingly UNATTAINABLE; a man that already has sexual partners and is already taken. He inflames her desire like no man ever does. This is because to a woman’s sexually primitive brain, a man that is actively sexual with other women is the TRIBAL LEADER, the high status male.

Paradoxically, a woman covets a man when he shows that he isn’t interested in her sexually. The more DISINTERESTED a man seems, the more the woman wants him to possess her. This contrary behavior of a woman again stems from her desire to mate with a high status male. Years of warding off low status males hitting on her for a quick lay have made her realize that high status males never solicit sex blatantly.

Deciphering the complexities of the female mind is akin to unraveling the mystery of the Bermuda Triangle- impossible. This article will help you to take a small step in the direction of understanding what women really want.