Differences between Day and Night
There are advantages and disadvantages to gaming in the daytime and the night. The main differences I have observed are the following:
- In the daytime, women often genuinely do have things to do, places to go (e.g. work). Often you will get ‘blowouts’ where the woman really DOES have to go. You can’t take it personally. Even if she does stop, interactions will be considerably shorter than in the night time so you will get less time to run game unless you can manage to get an instant date (highly recommended).
- Women often aren’t in the ’social mood’ during the day. Often they walk around in a daze; don’t expect a girl to be completely comfortable / not surprised at your approach – she will be! However, that can be a very good thing if you manage to keep the vibe going well, and can often gain you instant alpha status.
- Given the same amount of time talking, a number taken during the daytime will be far less likely to flake than during the night. This is because you have separated yourself from the crowd of loveable losers who need alcohol to give them the courage to approach at a bar; she will remember you well. In the night, women are in a high emotional state, and they tend to do things and say things they usually wouldn’t do when they are out shopping during the day (calm). When women are in this emotional state, things that happened during this time tend to ‘blur’ when they ‘come down’ the next morning. She may have said she will call you tomorrow but unless you spent at LEAST 30 minutes with her getting her to invest in you and connect with you, she will most likely flake.
- During the day, instant dates lead to solid numbers. During the night, a ‘move’ to a quiet area of the bar, or to another venue altogether builds investment and connection.
- The energy levels during the day are far, far lower than during the night. You have to calibrate your approach to that. It is good to get practise at both day and night – because when you do too much of one, your energy level is either too high or too low, depending on which one you do most (day or night).
- During the night, in their high emotional state, it is far easier to makeout with a girl, but don’t expect to see her the next day. Avoid instant makeouts and grinding on the dancefloor – it is all a trap!
- It is much easier to isolate and move during the night than during the day.
- Loud music during the night can make it hard if not impossible to run game. Try to find quiet, more mellow venues during the night. During the day, sound levels will almost never be a problem.
- There is more ‘competition’ during the night, whereas during the day you will have a ‘free reign’ over the women, since no man dares approach during the day, due to a mixture of social conditioning and alcohol.
- Finally, the obvious: alcohol during the night. This has many implications, one of which, as above, is increased ‘competition’ from drunk guys. Higher energy levels, lower attention span, high emotional state, ‘girliness’ e.g. running off to the dancefloor in the middle of talking to you (the most annoying thing I can probably think of!) are all hindrances to you picking these girls up. Even if you meet them standing, you’ve got to get them SAT DOWN and as calm as possible, with undivided attention on you. This can be hard when a girl is out with her girlfriends: She has an unconscious replication agenda, but she also goes where the fun and emotional stimulation lies. If you are trying to build a connection with a girl but a song she loves comes on, she will, despite her attraction for you, most likely leave you to join her friends. This is where investment and connection, aside from reducing flakes, come in. For us males, attraction is enough for us to want her to stay with us (for sex), but for girls, attraction is just another emotion. If there are other fun emotions competing at the time (including the high of alcohol), music, her friends, and you don’t already have a connection, you’re fighting an uphill battle. You’ve GOT to get investment and connection in order for her to want to stay with you despite other temptations, AND so that she remembers you the next day. Also watch out for alcohol fuelled interest – a woman will often touch you either to see if you respond like a horny puppy dog, or simply because she is drunk. Don’t return interest too easily. Finally, DO NOT drink yourself: aside from slowing your reactions, you will learn very little if your game is fuelled by alcohol.
Love,
James